Happiness

" The search for happiness

is purely personal

and not a model we can give to others."

- the pilgrimage

"The Road to Happiness", "The Happiness Project", "Self-Help on achieving True Happiness", "Can you buy Happiness?" "Pursuit of Happiness"-- a few of the millions of books on how to achieve Happiness...

Does anyone really know how to make people happy?... Who has the power to do so? Does being happy with dreams fulfilled give you a right to author books on Happiness or Success? What exactly is the point of these type of books? Is it to make the people envy on their stories and challenge the readers to work on their own lives? Or is it just a better and more polite way of saying to other people "Hey, my life's so good. How's yours?" or "Hey I am on the top of the corporate ladder, will you ever reach my stage?"

I may never give myself answers and neither would I search for them. To see my family happy, find the person who I can share my life with, travel with her to every carribean destination and become a world-class chef and eventually be cooking every meal for the person I love the most completes my numerous meaning of the word happiness and the list goes on... but those I've mentioned are on top of my list.

For other people, it is becoming "Somebody", marriage, having a baby, celebrating holidays together, going on escapades, experiencing your first kiss... and just like my list, it never stops there. People are never contented with what they have and always seek for more.. More thrill, more challenges, more adenture, more of life. I guess it's a good sign; a sign of a thrive for improvement and success...

Every individual has his or her own way of defining it. People would know if they are happy and when they are, they express it and share it for the hopes of "enlightening" the gloomy ones.

The guidance of other people towards the road to happiness is reasonable, if you ask me.. BUT happiness will never be defined by books and no one could have the power to define it FOR other people.

PDAs vs CULTURE

"Due to tradition in Korean culture, it is not customary for individuals of any sexual orientation to engage in public displays of affection."



- Korea's public statement

Now that's why they're doing it here in the Philippines!...

Why do you deprive people of pulic display of affection (PDA) when I think its a natural activity? Don't you think it's a bit too unfair compared to those allowed? Its something everyone needs to do for self expression and expression to your loved one... Why not do it?

Before you think I am an overly-liberated type of person; Let me distinguish what I consider myths of PDAs, then you be the judge.

• MYTH 1: PDAs are FOUL

Hey... I do approve of PDAs but not to the extremest level, okay?... There is a limit that we have to consider especially if the crowd includes children but whether or not there are people around, you have the right to express affections in anyways!

• MYTH 2: PDAs are to be done somewhere private
  

True... but PDAs doesn't always mean something dirty. It is just an expression of feelings. You can always hold and kiss her hand, smell her hair and hug your love one before going to work- simple yet it is a form of PDA which I consider acceptable.

• MYTH 3: PDAs are CHEAP
  

Depending on the person who defines PDA, it can mean a lot if things. OH YES! Let us break down PDA: Public means exposed to general view, Display means to put or spread before the view and affection means a moderate feeling or emotion... Put it all together and if you ask me, it has a decent meaning.

There... I have made my point clear enough and if you ask me, there is a thin line separating PDA from being obscene and disgusting to the senses. (m-w.com) How one defines PDAs always depend on how tainted their mind is.

So to our fast-growing population of Korean visitors,
to the illegal-staying koreans,
to the ones who are studying English courses & drinking sessions

PDAs are okay...just don't OVERdo things.

After all, this is Philippines and not Korea. ^^,

a very ordinary life

From where I am seated, I can see the sun set..and I say to myself, the day is ending. I always ask myself at this part of the day: "What have I done today?" and I always end up smiling as a response to my own question and I wouldn't know for the world what the smile meant.

Living in a world like mine is quite average. Although I wasn't given the chance to choose the things I want to become, but still I was provided with everything I wanted. It sounds really difficult but it's not... really. I just happen to have a lot of things in mind and dreams that I want to fulfill. Just that, I feel a little disappointed of myself.

Have you ever felt at some point in your life you feel you have not done anything meaningful? Yeah, I mean everybody does a lot of things in a day but its not the same when you accomplish something that means a lot to you. The significance is of 90 to 10 percent comparison.

I am the youngest in the family and everyone treats me like a baby. Sometimes it bothers me but most of the time, it doesn't. I love the feeling of depending. I know it sounds like I'm a useless person but hey, I didn't choose to be one. Honestly, I am trying to outgrow that stage because in reality I am truning 21 and the stage of becoming a baby has got to end, and got to end FAST.

Life has closing cycles and I know when one stage is about to end; Sometimes I just deny it to myself that it has to. I know it sounds so bitter of me to act like a kid while a lot of people suffer because of my attitude towards growing up.I admit I feel bad but sometimes I just feel so scared. I just don't know why... But I have realized that because of how I'm living my life now- eventually, it will make people feel bad seeing myself at a standstill.

"It is always important to know when something has reached its end. Closing circles, shutting doors, finishing chapters, it doesn't matter what we call it;What matters is to leave in the past those moments in life that are over."(The Zahir)

The chapter of my life that is about to and MUST begin starts with the acceptance of the reality of growing up. Whatever choices I have made in the past, Whether I broke other people's hearts or got my heart broken it wouldn't matter now. This is a new chapter, a new page waiting to be filled in. I can't live my life like a kid forever. I have to move on and challenge myself for bigger and harder tasks.

"I have to grow up." - it sounds so obvious. Difficult, YES... but it is important.

Inspired from Paulo Coelho's 5th Mountain

"There are three things that a child can teach an adult:To be happy for no reason; to be always busy doing something;And to know how to demand - with all one's might - what one wants."

Whenever I see a child, I always tend to look back to the memories of my own childhood. It lifts my spirit up and within that moment, I feel happy. It seems that anything a kid does is cute, even if they shout at the top of their lungs to get a candy or endlessly pull their dad's shirt because they want a toy. Try to picture out adults doing the same... What do you think?

I often hear that when people have problems they calm down upon seeing a child. A quarreling couple stops, separated couples are brought back together because of their children, even the bible implies the importance of kids and their value in God's kingdom. Trully, children works wonders without them knowing it.

Have you noticed the happiness in a children's party in comparison to parties of older people? With children, having fun could be as easy as eating ice cream, playing games until the distribution of loot bags and it does not stop there... it goes on until we don't know when. While on the other hand, adult parties have fun when a bottle opens, with music playing and some people starting to sway their way around the party venue and after everyone else has dozed off, the happiness just stops. and there goes your limited happiness for adults. Down the drain after drinking countless glasses of wine or beer.

I can see the difference for myself and it doesn't really matter what other people think of me. Yes, I ACT LIKE A KID and I find delight in children's activites. There's nothing to be ashamed about and besides everyone knows that.

We have to keep a little part of the child within us,I kept a bigger part of it with me and I'm happy...life is good... Enjoy while you have it.

What matters more to you?

If you're girlfriend is a Buddhist and you're a christian, would that change your wedding plans? will you tell her I'm sorry, we can't be together?

The question really is not about what to do, the real question is- Does religion matter to you? I love to read blogs online and I've read a lot of issues regarding religion and I think some people really make a big fuss about it. Some people care, some don't. There are even showbiz news about women who do not engage in anything physical because of religion; some overdo things because they believe religion has got nothing to do with relationships.

Depending on what religion you have, if you love someone-you must be open-minded about the restrictions and the principles they have to follow. It's not about the religion, it's about how genuine your feelings are for each other. Yeah, there are really strict rules in some religions but would you just forget about everything and religiously follow? Hey, there is plan B which is to compromise, right?

I do believe that a couple can still be married even if they have different religions. although its difficult to settle when you want a church wedding..But I'm not saying it's impossible... but you can always have a civil wedding.- it's more legal.

What I'm trying to say is that: Love is Love with or without concerning religion.

Love is in a way a religion itself because it is also a devotion and a commitment to the other person--- just like you to your religion.

What I'm saying is we have our own beliefs and we live according to these principles; As for me, I believe that Love does concern religion but it does not break it.

Uncertainty

the destroyer

I believe that what you love the most can destroy you and can cause you the biggest damage. People love, I do and everybody does... but do we ever realize that when we love, we tend to share everything and not leave a part of ourselves to US?

I always hear people say "I am a part of you and you with me..." and I say it's totally scary. Why?...because you never know when the love expires. LITERALLY. I don't really believe in the existence of Fairy Tale endings and neither do I believe in happy endings.

Let the magical stories stay where they are. - in books.

Haengbok

“Without You”

”There is no one I need”…

Its funny how I feel this way when I know beforehand that it’s impossible. At this point, I just feel like I have never been in love mywhole life. ;) I miss her even if I haven’t seen her for ages. I stare at pictures of her, I view her account and I can tell how often she changes primary pictures at Friendster. (LOL) I feel happy when I see her face so I decided to make her pictures my desktop. Don’t get me wrong but I’m not stalking or any of that kind. I just like her without any reason in the world.

I don’t care how people see it, I see it as a new meaning to ther word “INSPIRATION”.

She makes me feel happy even without doing anything. NEAT huh? ;)
and without even her knowing it, she makes my day.

Have you ever felt that you are loving the impossible?… That’s exactly how I feel.

Best things in life are FREE...

Life is no good alone...'til you are.

“i think i love you”
is a more often quoted quote than ”i love you”
…in my case.
it puts me on the side of lesser pain.
Maybe I am too scared;
too scared to get hurtor worst, to experience failure.
Failure is a part of life, YES;
but who isn’t scared of what’s next to failing?
Some even go crazy and I don’t wanna be in that mess.

If love has its stages, I’d only be until the first
okay, okay.. the second.
I have to admit I don’t fall in love easilybut when i am, i’m serious.
and I hate so much the feeling of not being loved in return.
Its painful and saddening.its relative to the feeling of rejection.

talking about love is as common
as people walking around on earth
but what i love writing about love is its story.
it really depends on the characters,the situation, the “moment”.
Straightforwardly, i didn’t have good experiences
but still, i find delight in love-writing.

Friends tell me stories of their own
and i LOVE to listen to them
I am so fascinated of how “it” works.

although, sacrifice is a synonym of love; if you ask me.
if you don’t know what sacrifice means,
then you ain’t ready for love.

but what the hell...
fall in love..here’s why: the feeling is so surreal,
it feels like its never gonna end.



not until, it has to.

JOB OPENING FOR A WRITER

“Writer” - - I don’t really get it why there’s something special about being one when we can’t deny that everyone can write.

I mean, I admit there are some who just writes their thoughts down without any topic in mind, and some may write about odd topics. But they still write, right?

I guess you need to be something else to become one or maybe you should have an extraordinary talent with words and coming up with stories.

I love to write but does it makes sense that I don’t want to be a writer?

Let me clarify my point: I love to write whenever I feel like to. I don’t like to write when I’m asked to.

There’s the BIG difference.

The bitter truth about love

I think I really don't need to hear this. It sucks when you like you a person so much and they find delight in telling you about other people they like. "Stubbornly Honest" people? or they just like to intentionally hurt people's felings? When I think about it, there are a lot of ways to break a heart gently. Why must they choose the painful option?

There are some who believe its a better way to be direct with people so they wouldn't hope or expect anything in return. Some believe that its okay to "play with other people's feelings", Some, just like me, prefer to say it bit by bit until the other person understands the whole issue. I admit its "killing the person softly" but i think it's better than to give it in one BANG!...

I'm starting to get a feeling that emotions are playing with people and not the other way around. Yeah, I mean unconsciously, people even go nuts over different and mixed emotions and we are left with no choice but feel them. Its funny how something abstract can make and destroy people.God works in different ways we can't seem to understand and he leaves us to discover the meaning for ourselves.

Yeah, yeah... the more you get hurt- the more lessons you learn. But I don't really get it why we have to be hurt to learn things, when it can be taught.